“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These people have an appreciation, a sensitivity and understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen” - Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
So what is implied here is that struggle and abuse is required in order to cultivate strength of character – instead of realizing the simple principle of character as principle: principles that are based on common sense, the value of life and the self-clarity or should we say sanity to not accept or allow abuse NO MATTER WHAT.
It is an indication of EGO wanting to justify struggle, pain, abuse in this world with the concept that THAT is what makes people beautiful, strong, better. It is saying that good can only exist through polarity. What is then the point of the endless war between good and bad? Can anyone ever really win? Or is the whole point damned to eternal re-cycling, with only some feeling BETTER about themselves for a moment, the moment they can say or think “hey what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”.
Victims of rape, abuse, violence may occasionally stand up and speak out and be strong – but what about the thousands or millions of silent victims that never share their story, that grow up to turn the tables ad be abusers just for the sake of balancing out the equation.
Do you need hurt to find compassion?
Do you need struggle to find peace?
Do you need violence to find gentleness?
Do you need loss to find fulfilment?
If this has been ‘your way’ then the best thing to do is understand that the world that allows fur this kind of bipolar conditions: is the consequence of the system we have accepted to run our lives, our world; it is the effect of our cause, equal and one; a reflection of who we are and how we co-exist.
To defend this polarity and USE it to justify one's belief-systems and validate violence, abuse and the exploitation of life as something that is “part of life” and a “lesson to learn” that “makes you stronger” because that is how you can feel better about yourself or because that is the only way you believe those in struggle find their strength – is ludicrous, is selfish, is EGO, is INSANE.
Let's have a closer look at what it is that is actually being cultivated through such belief-system:
the establishment of injustice and inequality as “just how things are”; the excuse for using blame, projection and pointing fingers at others without understanding how they as all of us have been created through this system of polarity where we are forced to struggle and compete against each-other to supposedly EARN the right to life, to supposedly WIN the race, the human race that is a nazi against itself.
What is being cultivated is the need for and the apparent ‘normality’ of finding 'justice' through separation, through self-gratification, through vengeance, through polarization. Instead of realizing that there can be no justice in this current system/world as we know it: we require a total-new structure to support life in this world, and to do that we have to start thinking OUTSIDE THE BOX we have created/accepted/allowed - OUTSIDE the 'rules' and 'laws' we conduct our existence by. We have to stop fighting for our limitations.
The statement quoted further implies that pain, struggle, loss: is the only way to find understanding, depth, appreciation, beauty.
Existing within such a belief-system, what are the consequences?
One will justify abuse; one will justify suffering; one will continue to create religions and hierarchies; one will continue to create ‘heroes’ and ‘martyrs’, placing them on pedestals, making more people wanna be like them...
One will continue to allow atrocity in this world and call it 'learning lessons' despite no one ever learning anything (because obviously nothing is changing and history is only repeating); one will create ‘martyrdom’ as ‘purpose’, as way of life, in fact as a way to be ‘special’ and ‘gain’ appreciation and some ‘self-worth’...
Is all that not selfish? Is that all in fact not a self-imposed depreciation of oneself as life, a depreciation of life itself!
Such belief-system is clearly a false view of reality based in the self-deception of EGO; painting a beautiful picture to not see the abuse we are existing in, to not have to take responsibility for the atrocity we allow in this world, to not have to wake-up from our denial and stand-up to STOP.
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