in Self-Honesty : Communication implies Directive

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Looking at a pattern of ‘communication’ where instead of being straight-forward within and as self-directive power, one will rather ‘wait’ for the other to ‘come forward’ and give direction or make a suggestion one can ‘relate’ to.

Why is this a problem?
If one ‘wait and see what’s coming’ to then accordingly interact – What does that imply? One is not communicating, one is reacting. Action-Reaction accumulated, one will end-up in a chain of reactive patterns not knowing how one got there. 
Action-Reaction is not Communication. 

Reactive behaviour stems from lack of self-determination: Out of ‘fear of being direct’, one will behave ‘indirectly’ and attempt to anticipate and manipulate another and/or one’s reality.
If we look at this perceived ‘infeariority’ (‘fear of being direct’) more closely, we can see that it is but a justification for cowardice and self-dishonesty. Fear always hides self-dishonesty and that is a ‘flag-point’ we can use to assist and support ourselves with effective self-direction. 

What is the ‘fear’ actually about? Let’s see: Being direct and communicating straight-forward implies Responsibility – Self-Responsibility and accountability for ‘who I am’ and how I co-exist and interact within my world.
Thus, ‘fear of being direct/directive’ is ‘fear of self-responsibility’/’fear of accountability’. What does that imply? That one does not trust oneself to direct oneself and one’s world as best for all and be accountable for every thought, word and deed.

It is easy to leave it upon the other to direct, while one simply ‘wait and see’. Being a Re-Actor one can blame another or blame one’s world, as one abdicate Responsibility for what is ‘happening’ to oneself and others in one’s world.

Being directive, one is an ‘activist’, a ‘practivist’. Taking self-directive power, one will communicate oneself directly, and will consequently take self-responsibility.

Because we either sit and wait and allow for things to ‘happen to us’, or we must ‘make things happen’ by our own directive will, in self-responsibility.


In the Communication model, within Actual Communication, both individuals are able to stand in equality and oneness and equally communicate self-directive will. The responsibility that goes with the consideration of equality means that the systems created within and through Communication will consequently serve what’s best for all as support to ‘who we are’ and how we are directing ‘our Here’, our common ground.
Communication is about communicating SELF, communicating directly ‘who we are’; When we communicate about points it is within the context of sharing ourselves and/or building support-structures for ‘who we are’.

In the Action-Reaction model however, one will create systems in separation, as personas and ideas through which one attempt to ‘communicate’ – thereby completely ‘missing’ oneself and each-other.


Communication is ‘physical’, direct and open in nature; it is ‘what is here’, as ‘who we are’. It is ‘immediate’. Responsibility is the 1+1 ‘consequence’ one will inevitably realize.

Action-Reaction is of ‘mind’, secretive in nature, based on interpretations of what is here. It is ‘mediate’. Responsibility is abdicated in fear of ‘consequence’.




We can see that Self-Honesty as ‘Man Know Thyself’ is imperative in the self-realization process of mankind. 
Because when one know oneself, consequence is not something to be feared or avoided; Consequence is simply the common-sensical outflow of ‘who I am’, the outcome of the steps I take in every breath : Self.Response.Ability. And when one’s ‘account’ is clear, one make oneself ‘able’ : Account.Able

We must push ourselves to learn how to truly communicate; with ourselves first, to firstly take responsibility for who we are and how our existence affects our world – and then with each-other based on the principle of equality and equal respect. 

We must learn to be directive, taking on the self-directive will to shape our world explicitly. 

We must be straight-forward and responsible, to live without shame, to live without regret, embracing ourselves and each-other in mutual recognition as life.

Family Ties – Adults Demon-strate for Children : The Daily quest for Power & Attention

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What we Demon-strate for Children : The Daily quest for ‘Power’ & ‘Attention’...

At a family gathering today I was watching a 7-year old boy playing with his 3-year old sister. What I witnessed was a power-game, all about attention, all about who each one is for/within oneself, using the other to achieve that ‘worth’/’value’ about/within oneself through competition and comparison.

 

I found myself in an awkward place.

You cannot blame the children, they are only repeating the words they hear from their parents, in exactly the manner they hear them, using them to manipulate in exactly the same fashion.

Starting with the first child which, inevitably will experience itself dominated by its parents (tired and frustrated within the current vampire of a money-system, yes) – this child will, as soon as it has a sibling and realizes the ‘difference’ in age, approach, attention etc., start adopting and copying ways to dominate the sibling and become ‘first’ in a hierarchy it will (re-)create itself, based on how it perceives the hierarchy through its experiences with the adults around it.

And daily, that ‘constellation’, the one that makes it ‘feel good’, ‘feel important’, ‘feel worthy’ – has to be re-established, no matter what. Any drama is a means to one’s goal of retrieving ‘power’ through ‘attention’.

Looking at the ‘grown-ups’, the ‘adults’ – this is exactly the ‘motto’ passed on. “This is what it’s about.” Maybe not in these words, though children need no words. They see. They do the math. They get it. And slowly but surely they start to become that which will suck you dry for ‘power’. That is, what the ‘adults’ have defined as ‘power’.

And it is horrifying how words are used in unawareness, as if the whole achievement lies within being a parrot to ‘grown-ups’. The child will simply repeat not only the word, but the whole value-system, the whole matrix behind it. And in its innocence and unconditional trust towards the parent or adult, the child will not only define the words according to the input and the ‘morality’/‘value’ resonating with it, but it will also define itself based on the adult’s  feedback/reaction to the child repeating the words and manners ‘demon-strated’ to it by the ‘grown-ups’.

A whole fakeness of a system is being created, an invisible wall to any direct communication about/as the actuality of reality. 

There is a huge lack on real communication about life & living as ‘who we are’; Instead, what is being ‘played with’ / ‘communicated with’ to ‘justify’ the power-games that become the reality of any consciousness system, is a ‘morality’ based in ‘reward’ and ‘punishment’ that is called ‘love’, creating ‘trust’ through manipulation, but never self-trust as life here.

Why do we wonder that this existence is bipolar ‘by nature’?

The whole daily story really begs the question :

How can we accept and allow our Children to become assets of self-gratification for the ‘grown-ups’ of this world – an accessory of ‘added value’? How can we use the system to ‘justify’ who we are and become with our children? How can we not see that we are responsible? 

Seeing the ‘adults’ in my life, I do not see grown-ups, I do not see maturity, I do not see self-responsibility. I see immaturity, I see inconsistency, I see mental and emotional manipulation to suit one’s own agenda and schedule; and I see the current system supporting this atrocity in all ways. I see the shrugging of shoulders telling me “but what can I do really...it’s out of hand...” – and I can’t help but thinking “you can’t, you already have, it’s already copied & pasted & successfully cloned. You are looking at yourself”.

 

Just because we cannot be mature ‘grown-ups’, we demand from our children to be it, to understand, to suit our own ‘needs’, ‘wants’, ‘desires’, to submit and accept our ‘fears’ and ‘obsessions’. To be there for us unconditionally – because we are the parents, “we do everything for them” – but only the way WE think is best - ...for whom actually?

An Equal Money System based on the value of Life implies not only a total transformation of the accepted value-system and the current forces of motivation based on fear, survival, ‘love’ and ‘power’/wealth –

It also implies a total transformation of Living, of ‘who we are’ and how we co-exist with ourselves and each-other in all aspects of life. It is in fact about the human becoming/changing to be equal as life – and no longer slave to a ‘shiny system’ of fake value, within as without.

This is it.

For the Children to come we need a new world that is life-friendly; scratch that, we need a new world that is actually and in fact existing AS Life – in all ways, and all systems.

Instead of a system that feeds off of life for ‘profit’ and ‘image’/ego – We need a system that actually feeds life; All life equally.

Equality as Life implies that Life IS the value : That would be a world we may ALL equally call HOME.

Let’s Bring it on!

See also:

Family? Family teach Love as Deception

Revolution of Money is Revolution of Man - A Destenation for Mankind