Self-Honesty & Self-Awareness Steps for the Elite

The Elite?

If you are reading this – you ARE the elite. I am the elite. All of us who have a certain roof over our head, a certain access to water and electricity, a certain access to money and an income that ensures everything one needs for a dignified living in this physical reality: WE are the ones that determine the evolution of the system, the evolution of life on planet earth – through everything that we do and sadly also through everything that we don’t do.

The ones in less fortunate positions such as famine, war, starvation, forced labor, are all enslaved to conditions they have no power to change, because they are cast out of the system we all daily participate in, they have no voice in this world, no vote to make their voice heard, and often no vocabulary to formulate the actual state of affairs they are being subjected to.

It is therefore up to the rest of us to find it within us to stand up for LIFE, and that includes every living thing on this existence, from the smallest to the biggest; to find it within us to realize our responsibility by the mere fact that WE RAE HERE, born into conditions that give us a relative power to move things, to voice our position, to make a stand and make sure that how we live and co-exist is practically bringing-forth a better life, a dignified life for ALL.

To find this will of life within us, self-honesty is required and practical common sense – to see who it is we are, how we came to be, and how it is that we are in fact creating this world; and to stop creating from a starting-point of fear, self-interest and separation, and instead start creating in awareness, in the realization that we exist in the context of life and that life is interdependent.

We have done already great harm to ourselves, each-other and our home planet – but this should not stop us from standing-up and stating “till here and no further”; it should not stop us from finding practical ways to stop the accepted ways of the world and transform the current system within and without into a living-expression of what is best for all – after all, what is best for all, is best for you and me.

This is obviously not going to be a quick fix, nor an easy journey. There is much re-education to be done in terms of freeing ourselves from the conditioned survival fear that keeps us existing against each other; freeing ourselves from the mind control that is being thrown at us from the moment of birth and really ask ourselves the question: what would we have liked to learn and experience as children coming into this world, how would the opportunities to explore and express ourselves look like – and what practical infrastructure would a system require to in fact provide the children with such quality of life; what will it take to change ourselves in such a way that we break the cycles of abuse and separation, that we stop history from repeating and really, truly, create a new world – for real, for ALL.

Yes - we require an entirely new system. At the same time however, we require to realize that –as with everything in existence–  it all starts with self. We are the building blocks of this world, as this world exists through and as the relationships we entertain – in the smallest of details.


Check out the series Self-Awareness Steps for the Elite – and make use of the tools offered to assist yourself toward self-honesty and a dignified existence.
Allow yourself to question self-interest and our fear-based existence, allow yourself to see yourself in a bigger context: the context of life, the context of oneness and equality as creation. 
Watch the following interview for a taste of what such a process entails:

Self-Honesty

I've been walking this process for more than four years now. Self-honesty entails the willingness to see/ recognize/ reveal the 'hidden motives' on the basis of which our beliefs, fears, desires, self-definitions are created/ adopted/ accepted. Self-honesty also entails to see the patterns we participate in (mental, emotional, behavioral) and understand/realize the cause/ beginning/ origin and effect/ outflow/ consequence - to ultimately take self-responsibility to change self in a way that no more (self-)abuse is allowed. Self-honesty is the process of revealing to myself where and how I am being self-dishonest, where and how I deceive or sabotage myself - to then investigate the self-corrective/ self-purifying practical steps required to stop - and 'transform' myself into a being I can live with. That is in the end the ultimate 'question' life confronts us with: "Can you live with yourself in the face of life, in the face of all that is here?" - "Have you stood up for yourself, have you stood up for life - What impact have you/ has your participation had on life as a whole?"

The main tools I utilize to work on points I am faced with throughout my everyday life are writing and self-forgiveness, which in few words could be described as: self-introspection, writing out the points/patterns, investigating what is 'behind' the particular thoughts/ emotions/ beliefs/ (self-)definitions, see the consequences for self/life, see what I am allowing within self/the world through my acceptances per implication, and make the choice to stop/ let-go/ forgive myself.
From here, what is required is a 'new script' which self determines in self-honesty: How do I want to 'purify'/'correct' myself in this regard? What is acceptable and what is unacceptable for life/ freedom/dignity? How do I want to live/apply the change practically? Self-honesty from here would be to direct myself towards/as self-change in the very moments where the particular pattern I worked with comes-up or gets triggered again. That is where I then 'test myself' in reality, that is where I 'prove' to myself that I am in fact taking self-responsibility, that I can in fact trust my word, that I am in fact directing myself to live as best for life, as best for all, of which i am equally part of.

Obviously this is a huge 'subject' and as I said I have been walking this 'process' for many years already. This started when I came across Desteni (I had been following a 'spiritual' path up to that point and was busy focusing on the 'positive' and suppressing/denying the 'negative' within self/the world) and that is when I started to participate on the forums and write and communicate with others that were also busy exploring life and themselves and searching for 'truth';
I started exploring the principle of equality and oneness, understanding polarity and how it works and how we trap ourselves and each-other within such system (within and without), and discussing practical solutions for self and the world so that we may finally make this world and life something that is no longer abusive/deceptive/exploiting; something that is worth living and worth leaving to our children without regret, without fear, without harm.

What is most fascinating is that, although this process started as a self-realization process for the individual, we concluded that we cannot be preoccupied with self only while the world is burning and half the population is left to starve; that we must first create the structural support and transform the system(s) of our world in a way that each living being can have a dignified life - then all are free to explore self and all have actual real choice to be and become who we truly are, and do what we really enjoy doing - without the enslavement of the current money-system that determines our choices and decides who lives and who dies.

Therefore at the moment we are focusing on bringing-forth a new equality system, while of course each one individually continues to walk the process of self-honesty, taking self-responsibility, developing self-trust, purifying ourselves and our relationships, and establishing the self-will from which emerge the freedom as we break free from the chains of 'old' and ingrained habits and patterns of this system consciousness that is based on fear, self-interest and basically war/competition/winners and losers. A win-win solution is possible for life. And that is the process of life as oneness and equality, within as without.


Check out the open forum at http://forum.desteni.org - much is shared there and people/we utilize the forum to write, share, discuss and support ourselves and each-other in self-honesty and practical common sense.

Check out the Equal Money website. The website will change in about a week's time with an interactive first page where people will be able to vote and comment on the goals and policy development thus far on the Equal Money System. There will also be an Equal Money wiki. Make sure you get involved, make sure your voice counts for what is best for all!

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GOOD & EVIL are ONE | Proof that you Can't Trust the Positive Feeling

We are trapped in a oneness of polarity, both within ourselves as the mind consciousness we’ve been cultivating as humanity over generations as well as in the outer world as the world systems we’ve been developing, accepting and allowing – all in the name of profit.

Profit itself is a polarity construct. For some to have profit, others must have loss.
Is it really so difficult to consider that there is another way?
Or is man so brainwashed with fear that only self-interest prevails at the cost of life itself?


Take the example of a rapist or any psychopath / sociopath for that matter (watch some episodes of Criminal Minds to get a real good idea on the psychology of a criminal profile.) The crime produces a positive experience within the criminal. But to ‘get there’, a negative act was necessary, for whatever reasons: to justify for an experience of lack or injustice the criminal experience within themselves, to take revenge or to balance-out an inferiority complex etc.

The motivation is the seeking /the desire /the pursuit of for instance revenge, justice, power. The idea of achieving that goal and getting that satisfaction is the positive charge that feeds the criminal mind. And the negative action as for instance rape, murder, bullying or any kind of abuse is the starting-point for the creation of the ‘positive’.


Or take the example of abusers that try and control you with fear, whereby they get a ‘positive’ boost from being able to abuse and give you a ‘negative’ experience, which makes them feel ‘more’, ‘stronger’, ‘powerful’. Isn’t this evidence that the positive feeling cannot be trusted?

Fascinatingly enough, the abuser, the bully will often use the same label to induce fear in another that was used by others to frighten them when they were kids for instance. So if someone calls you a faggot or a prick or fat-ass, you can be sure the word thy use is something that either has ‘hurt’ them (=their ego) before or a word they fear, or if someone was fat and was bullied about it and now they’ve lost the extra pounds, it could be they are gaining satisfaction as ‘positive’ charge through hitting you with the ‘negative’, in this case the label ‘fat-ass’.
So here the ‘negative’ action of calling you ‘fat-ass’ is creating the ‘positive’ feeling of satisfaction they’re getting through the comparison they draw in the mind. Now this may be an ‘innocent’ example, however the mechanics of how this works is the same in all cases of abuse and separation.

“The reason why the negative is so powerful, is that the negative is the creator of the positive. The positive is the charge and the negative is the action/starting-point of creation.”

So –
Let’s now look at this from the other side of the polarity more in depth. Let’s take the ‘positive’ example of a lightworker, a positive-thinker or a spiritual person. The creation of a lightworker, a positive-thinker or a spiritual person as a ‘positive’ point has its roots in the perception of for instance this world as ‘negative’.
The lightworker, the positive-thinker or the spiritual person did not look at this world and see it for what it is to understand why things are how they are and how everything within that functions. The lightworker, the positive-thinker or the spiritual person looked at the world and had a ‘negative’ judgment about it, which to deny / suppress / ignore one then uses concepts of ‘light and love’, ‘positive thinking’ or ‘spirituality’ to feel better about oneself, when in fact these ‘methods’ do not have any impact on the world as such, or even any impact really on the person itself other than perhaps making the person comfortably numb for a moment, until reality bashes in.

“See - in spite of being positive - one negative point will destroy all the positive effort.”

It's time to GET REAL – only so will we be able to bring forth REAL SOLUTIONS

Check out the following Freedom Blogs:

Light, Love and Harmony

Is Love something you can Touch

Spirituality and Responsibility

Lifting the Veil to See the true spiritual path



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“We are a world created through failure - the failure to actually CARE FOR LIFE. We will pay for it, but that must not detract us from creating what is best for all.”

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Quotes used in this blog are by Bernard Poolman

[2012] Is LOVE something you can TOUCH

Love in this world has been defined through the consumerism consciousness of self-interest (see the documentary The Century of Self for an extensive background on the development of ‘modern civilization’ as we know it today), and definitions of love has been impulsed onto us through the different media in an idealizing manner, resulting into various consequences in terms of what we think of love, how we struggle to experience love, and what illusions we tend to create as ‘love’ in our attempt to deny the physical actuality of ourselves and this existences, our attempt to suppress the ‘negative’, the suffering, the ‘dark side’ of ourselves and this world, our attempt to avoid taking responsibility for life.

We have become ‘happiness machines’ and ‘love’ has become the drug which we use to either seek the bliss of enlightened self-interest or to become comfortably numb.

So – love has become an idea, a concept, an illusion of grandeur and profoundness, when in fact our practical physical living in this world gives no evidence of love, no evidence of a loving reality within ourselves and our world, this existence.

How can love exist in a world where separation, self-interest, war, conflict, rape, starvation, exploitation prevail?

We fight in the name of love, we hate in the name of love, we kill in the name of love.

How have we missed to make love practical?

What are the mental projections and concepts of ‘love’ that we’ve deluded ourselves with – to such an extent that we’ve lost all practical connection to reality as ourselves and this world?

We can see definitions of love in all fields of our consumer consciousness field: media, movies, money-system, education, religion, spirituality...

You will also note that those that are possessed by ‘love’ will refuse to consider anything else but that love is the answer -- and there will be no practical way they can explain how love will change the world and regardless of this obvious oversight, their egos will spew one word like magic poison: ‘love will heal the world’ -- they should watch the news to see that the only love on the Telly is the love the corporations are promoting as love for their products. [1]

How do we redefine LOVE to be a living word that will in fact change the experience of ourselves as humanity, as a whole, as existence?

Love is: to not give up on yourself or others/existence - but to be willing to stand no matter what, to not accept or allow anything less than what's best for all; and be willing to take the risks/actions necessary to get this done. [2]

When we look at the practical-living of love, it is not in the words “I love you”, it is not within one person making another person feel ‘special’ or ‘wanted’ or ‘desired’, it is not the stroking of your ego, it is not accepting each-other the way we are because that would imply that love is a lock-down of personalities so that they never change as they have found the point that accept ‘just the way they are’ and therefore they will not expand, they will not grow, they will not consider anything else since the ego/personality is ‘satisfied’. That is not love.

Love is NOT an experience - it is a living reality you participate in with another being and existence as a whole. [3]

Looking at love in the context of relationships we can see that the point of love has been extremely sexualized in all aspects. One cannot possibly ‘have’/’get’ love without participating in comparison, competition, jealousy. Further, obsession, possessiveness and fear of loss play a role in ‘keeping’ the love one ‘has’. Seduction, manipulation, deception are further phenomena in the context of ‘love’ in this world.

We sell ourselves for love in all possible ways. Love becomes the context where we compromise ourselves just to ‘have’ that little bit of attention and acceptance that we mostly don’t give to ourselves. Within that, touch has become a tool of hidden messages and manipulation, as beings do not actually get to know each-other and self beyond the boundaries of the personality traits we present ourselves as; we do not learn to actually communicate, support and assist self and each-other to express, expand, flourish.

Can you allow yourself to be touched by another without it becoming immediately a sexual projection?

Why can people not touch each other in support to just convey ‘I am here with you’ = in the touch? [4]

How do we redefine TOUCH to be a living word that will in fact change the experience of ourselves as living beings, and through that change the experience of our whole existence?

Touch as the living word is how a mother and father will hold and touch a new born baby or how you would hold a puppy when you bring it home... [5]

Touch as the connection/embracing of a physical-manifestation/ body for a moment sharing the contact of being here together with each other [6]

Photography by Marlen

Touch is the evidence of I am Here.

But what am I here as?

Our touch has been throughout our lives coloured with all kinds of symbols, depending on what we have gone through and experienced, the relationships we’ve had and the ones we’ve witnessed. It’s like we’ve lost touch with our own touch, our own physical, our own presence, as our presence has been and is being defined through the consciousness of our conditioned mind – the mind that exists in polarities of fear and desire, thus: we never express directly, but through patterns of the mind.

The same with Touch.

It is a challenge for all human beings to let go of the conditioned existence we have accepted as who we are and get back to self, to the simplicity of I am Here, to the purity of touch – Touch without hidden agendas, without future projections, without the need to control the outcome, without the expectation to get something out of it.

Simplicity in the direct communication as I am here – the straightforwardness of pure touch can be the greatest comfort in this world ...and perhaps a way to change it!

Give up sainthood, renounce wisdom,
And it will be a hundred times better for everyone.

Give up kindness, renounce morality,
And men will rediscover filial piety and love.

Give up ingenuity, renounce profit,
And bandits and thieves will disappear.

These three are outward forms alone; they are not sufficient in themselves.
It is more important
To see the simplicity,
To realize one's true nature,
To cast off selfishness
And temper desire.

-         - Lao Tzu

At Desteni we walk the process of transforming the conditioned existence of ourselves into self-directive living through self-will in self-honesty – to no longer be puppets on the strings of the mind, but to stand equal to and one with the entirety of self and take responsibility for who we are in every moment, with every word, thought and deed, in everything we participate in and everything we touch.

Let's make Love something we can Touch - 

something all can see, live and practically experience as the fabric of our existence in all possible ways!

[1] [3] [4] [5] Bernard Poolman

[2] [6] Sunette Spies

[7] Lao Tzu: Tao Te Ching

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