[2012] Is LOVE something you can TOUCH

Love in this world has been defined through the consumerism consciousness of self-interest (see the documentary The Century of Self for an extensive background on the development of ‘modern civilization’ as we know it today), and definitions of love has been impulsed onto us through the different media in an idealizing manner, resulting into various consequences in terms of what we think of love, how we struggle to experience love, and what illusions we tend to create as ‘love’ in our attempt to deny the physical actuality of ourselves and this existences, our attempt to suppress the ‘negative’, the suffering, the ‘dark side’ of ourselves and this world, our attempt to avoid taking responsibility for life.

We have become ‘happiness machines’ and ‘love’ has become the drug which we use to either seek the bliss of enlightened self-interest or to become comfortably numb.

So – love has become an idea, a concept, an illusion of grandeur and profoundness, when in fact our practical physical living in this world gives no evidence of love, no evidence of a loving reality within ourselves and our world, this existence.

How can love exist in a world where separation, self-interest, war, conflict, rape, starvation, exploitation prevail?

We fight in the name of love, we hate in the name of love, we kill in the name of love.

How have we missed to make love practical?

What are the mental projections and concepts of ‘love’ that we’ve deluded ourselves with – to such an extent that we’ve lost all practical connection to reality as ourselves and this world?

We can see definitions of love in all fields of our consumer consciousness field: media, movies, money-system, education, religion, spirituality...

You will also note that those that are possessed by ‘love’ will refuse to consider anything else but that love is the answer -- and there will be no practical way they can explain how love will change the world and regardless of this obvious oversight, their egos will spew one word like magic poison: ‘love will heal the world’ -- they should watch the news to see that the only love on the Telly is the love the corporations are promoting as love for their products. [1]

How do we redefine LOVE to be a living word that will in fact change the experience of ourselves as humanity, as a whole, as existence?

Love is: to not give up on yourself or others/existence - but to be willing to stand no matter what, to not accept or allow anything less than what's best for all; and be willing to take the risks/actions necessary to get this done. [2]

When we look at the practical-living of love, it is not in the words “I love you”, it is not within one person making another person feel ‘special’ or ‘wanted’ or ‘desired’, it is not the stroking of your ego, it is not accepting each-other the way we are because that would imply that love is a lock-down of personalities so that they never change as they have found the point that accept ‘just the way they are’ and therefore they will not expand, they will not grow, they will not consider anything else since the ego/personality is ‘satisfied’. That is not love.

Love is NOT an experience - it is a living reality you participate in with another being and existence as a whole. [3]

Looking at love in the context of relationships we can see that the point of love has been extremely sexualized in all aspects. One cannot possibly ‘have’/’get’ love without participating in comparison, competition, jealousy. Further, obsession, possessiveness and fear of loss play a role in ‘keeping’ the love one ‘has’. Seduction, manipulation, deception are further phenomena in the context of ‘love’ in this world.

We sell ourselves for love in all possible ways. Love becomes the context where we compromise ourselves just to ‘have’ that little bit of attention and acceptance that we mostly don’t give to ourselves. Within that, touch has become a tool of hidden messages and manipulation, as beings do not actually get to know each-other and self beyond the boundaries of the personality traits we present ourselves as; we do not learn to actually communicate, support and assist self and each-other to express, expand, flourish.

Can you allow yourself to be touched by another without it becoming immediately a sexual projection?

Why can people not touch each other in support to just convey ‘I am here with you’ = in the touch? [4]

How do we redefine TOUCH to be a living word that will in fact change the experience of ourselves as living beings, and through that change the experience of our whole existence?

Touch as the living word is how a mother and father will hold and touch a new born baby or how you would hold a puppy when you bring it home... [5]

Touch as the connection/embracing of a physical-manifestation/ body for a moment sharing the contact of being here together with each other [6]

Photography by Marlen

Touch is the evidence of I am Here.

But what am I here as?

Our touch has been throughout our lives coloured with all kinds of symbols, depending on what we have gone through and experienced, the relationships we’ve had and the ones we’ve witnessed. It’s like we’ve lost touch with our own touch, our own physical, our own presence, as our presence has been and is being defined through the consciousness of our conditioned mind – the mind that exists in polarities of fear and desire, thus: we never express directly, but through patterns of the mind.

The same with Touch.

It is a challenge for all human beings to let go of the conditioned existence we have accepted as who we are and get back to self, to the simplicity of I am Here, to the purity of touch – Touch without hidden agendas, without future projections, without the need to control the outcome, without the expectation to get something out of it.

Simplicity in the direct communication as I am here – the straightforwardness of pure touch can be the greatest comfort in this world ...and perhaps a way to change it!

Give up sainthood, renounce wisdom,
And it will be a hundred times better for everyone.

Give up kindness, renounce morality,
And men will rediscover filial piety and love.

Give up ingenuity, renounce profit,
And bandits and thieves will disappear.

These three are outward forms alone; they are not sufficient in themselves.
It is more important
To see the simplicity,
To realize one's true nature,
To cast off selfishness
And temper desire.

-         - Lao Tzu

At Desteni we walk the process of transforming the conditioned existence of ourselves into self-directive living through self-will in self-honesty – to no longer be puppets on the strings of the mind, but to stand equal to and one with the entirety of self and take responsibility for who we are in every moment, with every word, thought and deed, in everything we participate in and everything we touch.

Let's make Love something we can Touch - 

something all can see, live and practically experience as the fabric of our existence in all possible ways!

[1] [3] [4] [5] Bernard Poolman

[2] [6] Sunette Spies

[7] Lao Tzu: Tao Te Ching

Blog support:

Joy

Why isn’t Love an illegal Drug?

Love & Light Beliefs vs Man Know Thyself

From Back-Chat to the Living Word

Vlog support:

Real Love is to Give

Love is Equality

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2012 Sex Evolution & Sexual Revolution

The world is established and formed through who we are and how we co-exist in our relationships within it. Thus, it is relationships / agreements / partnerships that will build the foundation for a new world.
A new living-reality of relationships must be established through communication, transparency and agreement, to transcend the patterns of dependency, separation, secrecy and manipulation and thus dishonesty and deception, and to transform relationships into agreements of life that support self in learning to live and co-exist in self-honesty and mutual respect. This will purify existence from the inside out and dignify life into a living process of self-exploration, growth and expression.

We can see that Sex plays a major role in the current system, both from the world-perspective in terms of capitalism, consumerism, abuse, exploitation and the consciousness of buy and sell, the consciousness of polarity, of addiction, of abuse; as well as from the perspective of the individual, wherein sex is/has been a point of secrecy, power-games, competition, manipulation, obsession, generally the diminishment and exploitation of life as ourselves due to the fake ‘values’ we adopt and ‘desires’ based on the ‘education’ we are brainwashed with through media, parents, peers/school, pornography – while we’ve lost all self-respect as a species and have difficulty accepting and embracing/supporting ourselves and thus seek for that approval in separation from ourselves.

Our relationships are based on the impressions we’ve gathered throughout our first relationships in life, beginning with our parents. It is vital to free ourselves from patterns and take self-responsibility in transforming the accepted ‘human nature’ into something that is worthy of life on this planet.
Self-acceptance, self-trust, self-honesty, self-respect – these are values that assist in establishing relationships of trust, respect, honesty, transparency and strength.

Sex in this world has become a point that is, in one way or another, an `issue´ for human beings. We can see this in the taboo-nature of Sex, as well as in the secrecy around it.
We seem to have lost our innocence in that regard, and one can ask the question What has become of uncomplicated, direct and transparent physical communication between human beings. Why has Sex become what Sex has become – and what is it exactly that Sex represents and facilitates, apart from the known mating and reproduction functions we are all aware of?

Sex has become a system through which we – consciously or unconsciously – attempt to get validation, approval or `worth´, and equally a system through which we even seek revenge, vengeance or `justice´. We tend to not see these mechanics within ourselves, yet it is clearly seen within society and the depiction of sexual socialization in movies and other arts. We can see this in the evolution of pornography as well as in the human trafficking and sex-slavery that is going in this world, based on and functioning through the very value-system of this existence, of this world consciousness:
a polarity-system manifested as and seen within the current money-system and how it exists within an imposed polarity and a proclaimed scarcity, whereby worth/value is placed in separation from life in accessories of `beauty´, `perfection´, `youth´ and `power´.

Mankind has devalued as life to such an extent, that value is more and more sought-after within external stimuli, external power-sources and accessories of `power´ – because we have completely given up on and abdicated our value as life and each-other´s value as life; otherwise we would not be abusing and exploiting life as ourselves, nor would we be accepting and allowing the current system to continue, which is a system of consumerism, consumption and cons that in the end it consumes us to such an extent that nothing but a weak spark of life remains.

We all are able to see this, as demonstrated, yet we tend to see it in `others´ and `out there´ in the world, and we can spend hours gossiping about these things or moaning and complaining about how the world is turning into an ugly place, without ever looking at how we individually contribute to the existence of the sex-system and all the constructs, industries and markets behind it.

At Desteni we do exactly that, with any and all systems and manifestations or `problems´ of this world. We take the point back to self and have a look at how the `small´ dimension of individual application and participation accumulates into implicit tolerance for the unacceptable – the abuse and exploitation that is happening and is allowed to continue in this world at all levels.

SET LIFE FREE!

Facing reality, facing self – we realize that it is both within and without, both above as below, that the revolution, an actual evolution must happen, and it can only be real and substantial if it is self-willed, self-directed, established through transparency, communication, agreement.

We require a new awareness of/as life that will bring forth a new system based in equality and oneness as the value of life that will slowly but surely transform the money-system/world-system and give every being born into this world the actual opportunity –for all equally – to explore and discover themselves and the planet, the universe.

That is what we are busy with at Desteni and we see that:
on the smaller scale, it is every individual that is undergoing a process of self-realization, which is unfolding either in denial and suppression and thus through rather traumatic events that will wake a person wake-up to reality; or through self-directive participation/application in life within self-honesty and self-responsibility.


Who are we / who am I, individually, within Sex? What are the relationship-constructs that manifest and perpetuate the power-games and mind-delusions which in turn feed the world-system of consumerism and maintain the world as we know it? What are the seemingly small acceptances we compromise ourselves to within everyday-participation, which in turn allow the `show´ to go on and everybody including ourselves to keep their make-up on and pretend that everything is okay?

At Desteni we walk in awareness the process of self-honesty and self-purification/self-perfection in the context of creating a new world in self-responsibility – to end all abuse and stop the deception of energy that is manifested as the money-system of this world based on ‘educated’ ideas of ‘power’ and ‘beauty’. A process of dignifying life as ourselves and establishing a co-existence that is worthy as life.



“What is SEX” is a series that discusses Sex and the manifestation of Sex in a holistic context, giving perspectives from the smaller (the atom, DNA, organs and functions of the human physical body in its multidimensionality) to the bigger (history of the sex system, consciousness and energy, relationships and mind-control, the unified consciousness field, history of mankind and the universe...)

Here is an overview / intro video interview you can watch:

The  “What is SEX”  series:
What is Sex? - Introduction (Part 1-6)
What is Sex - Part 7
What is Sex - Part 8
What is Sex - Part 9
What is Sex - Part 10
What is Sex - Introducing the Relationship-System - Part 11
What is Sex - The Primary and Sub Relationship-Systems of Mind and Sex - Part 12
What is Sex - Relationship Profiling - Part 13
What is Sex - How we create Relationship Profiles - Part 14

There are more series and cool stuff to be discovered at the EQAFE.
Check out the ART by Desteni Artists at http://desteniartists.blogspot.com and Investigate the research, application and solutions shared at http://Desteni.org and http://EqualMoney.org

SET LIFE FREE!

TRUTH is a Four Letter Word

TRUTH
one word - so many stories, so many seeking for glory

how can there be different truths
personal truths, 'my truth' or 'your truth'
when we all share one planet
on common ground
and what is best for me is best for you
'cause we need the same things, we want the same things
and we're bound to each other for survival and quality of life

how can we not see that there is only one truth
and that truth is here
it is this world right in front of our eyes
within as without
we all contribute our share to this one truth manifested as 'life on earth'

why do we bind life to a system that is hostile to life
the secret of the tower of babel
is the one common long-u-age that binds us:
money



how can there be so many claiming to own the truth
so many professing a way to the truth
while ignoring what is going right in front of our eyes day in day out
if there are so many leaders to the truth,
so many masters on earth that have apparently found it
how come we are not yet mastering this one reality we all share?

could it be because the truth that is professed is only one's 'own truth'
tailored to fit one's own mind-reality
and instrumentalised to give one power
in whatever form or value
while we disempower our fellow man and our home planet

what god would buy that we were seeking for the truth
while closing our eyes to the very presence of our creation
here
what god would forgive the human that is not his brother's keeper
the human that exists in fear and therefore seeks to protect its own
as if we own the breath we breathe
as if we own the sun and the water and the earth

how can any man stand before god, before death, before oneself
and look the darkness in the eye that is I
without shame
when we shame ourselves as life through our very existence
what light can there be at the end of the tunnel
when the light of this earth is not shared equally for all
when man does not give what man wants to receive
blinded by the light of might
obsessed with some mightiness that might come
while one wait, while one procrastinate
always ready to throw the first stone
pointing fingers will never get us home

home is here
this is the space and time
that we own
or are we owned

the time is here
but the end is near
unless we stop the fear
and stand-up
to act in actual fact
and bring-forth a solution
a resolution for the condition of man
until man is kind
and the planet is ONE
where we live as EQUALS of LIFE
like brothers under the sun

Be the Change you want to See in the World | Self Forgiveness: You give You a Ticket to Freedom

"The point of self forgiveness is to realize that all will have to give up on revenge if we want to change the future of the planet."

vengeance brings no justice. 


revenge brings no justice. 


justice can only exist where all life is free - and that is within equality. 
oneness by definition implies equality. but to bring about such a world, a reality where oneness and equality of life is the leading principle, we all must start with ourselves and the relationships in our world. 


it is not about forgiveness, there is no forgiveness for what we have allowed / are allowing. 


there is only self-forgiveness, and that is the door to self-change, self-correction, self-purification. without the change, forgiveness is irrelevant.


there is only self-forgiveness, and that is to set oneself free from the past and stop the blame, because through blame we give away our power to those we blame as we make them responsible. 


self-forgiveness is self-responsibility: 


giving yourself the ticket to a new life, a new existence, a path of self-correction, instead of waiting for others to change first; 


and as we/many walk the path of self-re-creation based on the value of life, dignity and respect, we slowly but surely start forming a new world, a new environment, where the children to come will be formed according to a new paradigm where life is valued as the 'highest value' that can ever exist. 

by Desteni Artists

Heaven on Earth

Heaven on Earth is possible when we Give to ourselves and each-other that which we want to Get, that which we want to enjoy, that which we wish for or dream about, in a way that life is honored and no harm is done/accepted.

Thus Heaven on Earth is possible by making available for All Here and Now the things we would all enjoy: shelter, nurturing, water, living space, TIME, freedom of movement and all opportunities to self-expansion, growth and development - all opportunities to get to know ourselves and our world.

All those 'heavenly' qualities we tend to project into an afterlife or the future 'with some luck' : We can bring it all Here, for All.
Then 'luck' is irrelevant, and so is 'hope' and all kinds of projections.


If we look at how an individual 'think of' heaven, it is mostly a place where one 'know' and 'understand' who one is and what one's reality/one's life is. One gain 'knowledge' and 'understanding' to oneself and the context of oneself - the universe.

Heaven on Earth from that perspective is when all is known and all have equal opportunity to knowledge, abilities and the study of the universe.
Heaven on Earth implies that Life is Living, not surviving.
All being free to live and explore, we do not have to exist in survival-mode in fear of each other.
When all is known and all is seen - Fear is no more.
When all have equal power, equal life, equal value - Jealousy, Spite, Greed is no more.

Heaven on Earth implies practically that all are 'god'.
With Heaven on Earth all wo/men are equal - all beings are equal and thus no evil exist.

Art by Jessica Arias

An equal money system is a first step to Heaven on Earth: Giving ourselves and each-other that which we want to Get.
If 'god' takes care of all its children, so should man.

So why don't we?
The answer is separation and fear.
Everyone wants in essence the same. Yet we submit to fear and worship beliefs of separation - instead of honoring Life as who we all really are.

Equality is the Key to Heaven on Earth.
'Heaven on Earth is eternal life'.
Equality is the Key to Life eternal.

Into-me-I-See

Where is the Passion?

I embrace within me a form of `anger´ that is Here when I see how I have compromised the Passion of Life as who I am.

Why do we fear to live our Passion?

We fear people´s judgment, we fear being misunderstood, we fear being envied or `rejected´ by the many that stick-together, in a fearful attempt to keep their life `working´ as it does, at least in their Belief.

This is unacceptable!

I eject myself from this lock-down-system and I stand as Passion as Life - to no-more accept compromise.

Why is the Passion of Life being compromised?

The Passion of Life in this world is linked to the propagated fantasy of `the one´ - where one will `save the best for last´ and become close-fisted and reserved, waiting for `the one´ - when in-fact we each Are `the one´, yet unable to Give ourselves to ourselves and to Life in every moment of breath.

Unacceptable!

The Passion of Life is who I am as Life - is who each-one really is as Life - it is Life´s Passion for Life: to do what it takes to reveal the lies and the chains we allow ourselves to be subject to.

I will no-longer allow myself to compromise myself to some `morality´ in the back of my mind, a programmed `set of rules´ of which I don´t even know the equation, a control-system based on this world´s ideas of `right´ & `wrong´!

No!

In this world, Life is compromised. As with Passion, Intimacy is compromised.

Why is Intimacy compromised?

We learn that Intimacy is linked to sex only. In our families, we don´t learn to Live Intimately - we don´t learn what is Real, we don´t learn that: Into-me-I-See.

Instead, what is Real is veiled by a `codex moralicus´; We don´t want to see ourselves, as we hide behind the veil of who we want to believe we are; We don´t want to be `the one for me´ as we are driven by subliminal impulses to always search for `the one´.

`Intimacy´ in this world is something that is happening behind closed doors only - only with someone `special´.

Bullshit!

Real Intimacy is to See `who we are´ and Dare to Share - in the Realization that we Are in-essence All of the same Life-substance.

Intimacy in-action is to reveal what is Here unconditionally; and share another´s Pain until Pain is no-more and not one of us is suffering in Existence.

Why do we fear Intimacy?

Because `intimacy´ in the matrix is linked to sex - and sex is linked to the Game of `winning´ and `losing´ - whereby we perceive that if we´d be intimate with ourselves and the world around us - we would risk `losing´ something.

The only thing lost here is Life itself, the Passion of Life as Life, as we suppress our Joy of Being and our Connectedness and our Sharing of ourselves in Real-Communication and CommonSense.

This only reveals that we haven´t learned to accept ourselves, we haven´t learned to live `who we are´. Instead, we want others to accept us and thus we `live´ a persona as who we think we must be to be accepted.

If we accept ourselves, acceptance from others becomes irrelevant.

If we trust ourselves, trust from others is irrelevant, yet likely.

When I know who I am as I stand as the Passion of Life - I trust myself. I am Here - and I know what I stand for, I know what I stand as - and that is sufficient, it must be sufficient, there is no other way.

This `anger´ that is Here is not an anger towards someone or something. It is an expression of me standing-up in the statement that: Compromise is not acceptable - ´till here and No-more!

This `anger´ is my commitment to myself to no-more allow or accept Life to be compromised, no-more an Existence of zombies, no-more an Existence of living-Dead.

This `anger´ is the spark of my Passion as who I am as Life, the spark of my Will to stand for what is Real, until I am Real and Free as who I am;

This `anger´ is the spark of my Determination to stand for All Life until Life is Here and All are Equally Free in-fact; until All is One and Love is Equal in-fact.

The Passion of Life is Here as who I am.

I am Grateful to all fellow-beings who Dare to Share and to call things by their true-name.