[2012] Is LOVE something you can TOUCH

Love in this world has been defined through the consumerism consciousness of self-interest (see the documentary The Century of Self for an extensive background on the development of ‘modern civilization’ as we know it today), and definitions of love has been impulsed onto us through the different media in an idealizing manner, resulting into various consequences in terms of what we think of love, how we struggle to experience love, and what illusions we tend to create as ‘love’ in our attempt to deny the physical actuality of ourselves and this existences, our attempt to suppress the ‘negative’, the suffering, the ‘dark side’ of ourselves and this world, our attempt to avoid taking responsibility for life.

We have become ‘happiness machines’ and ‘love’ has become the drug which we use to either seek the bliss of enlightened self-interest or to become comfortably numb.

So – love has become an idea, a concept, an illusion of grandeur and profoundness, when in fact our practical physical living in this world gives no evidence of love, no evidence of a loving reality within ourselves and our world, this existence.

How can love exist in a world where separation, self-interest, war, conflict, rape, starvation, exploitation prevail?

We fight in the name of love, we hate in the name of love, we kill in the name of love.

How have we missed to make love practical?

What are the mental projections and concepts of ‘love’ that we’ve deluded ourselves with – to such an extent that we’ve lost all practical connection to reality as ourselves and this world?

We can see definitions of love in all fields of our consumer consciousness field: media, movies, money-system, education, religion, spirituality...

You will also note that those that are possessed by ‘love’ will refuse to consider anything else but that love is the answer -- and there will be no practical way they can explain how love will change the world and regardless of this obvious oversight, their egos will spew one word like magic poison: ‘love will heal the world’ -- they should watch the news to see that the only love on the Telly is the love the corporations are promoting as love for their products. [1]

How do we redefine LOVE to be a living word that will in fact change the experience of ourselves as humanity, as a whole, as existence?

Love is: to not give up on yourself or others/existence - but to be willing to stand no matter what, to not accept or allow anything less than what's best for all; and be willing to take the risks/actions necessary to get this done. [2]

When we look at the practical-living of love, it is not in the words “I love you”, it is not within one person making another person feel ‘special’ or ‘wanted’ or ‘desired’, it is not the stroking of your ego, it is not accepting each-other the way we are because that would imply that love is a lock-down of personalities so that they never change as they have found the point that accept ‘just the way they are’ and therefore they will not expand, they will not grow, they will not consider anything else since the ego/personality is ‘satisfied’. That is not love.

Love is NOT an experience - it is a living reality you participate in with another being and existence as a whole. [3]

Looking at love in the context of relationships we can see that the point of love has been extremely sexualized in all aspects. One cannot possibly ‘have’/’get’ love without participating in comparison, competition, jealousy. Further, obsession, possessiveness and fear of loss play a role in ‘keeping’ the love one ‘has’. Seduction, manipulation, deception are further phenomena in the context of ‘love’ in this world.

We sell ourselves for love in all possible ways. Love becomes the context where we compromise ourselves just to ‘have’ that little bit of attention and acceptance that we mostly don’t give to ourselves. Within that, touch has become a tool of hidden messages and manipulation, as beings do not actually get to know each-other and self beyond the boundaries of the personality traits we present ourselves as; we do not learn to actually communicate, support and assist self and each-other to express, expand, flourish.

Can you allow yourself to be touched by another without it becoming immediately a sexual projection?

Why can people not touch each other in support to just convey ‘I am here with you’ = in the touch? [4]

How do we redefine TOUCH to be a living word that will in fact change the experience of ourselves as living beings, and through that change the experience of our whole existence?

Touch as the living word is how a mother and father will hold and touch a new born baby or how you would hold a puppy when you bring it home... [5]

Touch as the connection/embracing of a physical-manifestation/ body for a moment sharing the contact of being here together with each other [6]

Photography by Marlen

Touch is the evidence of I am Here.

But what am I here as?

Our touch has been throughout our lives coloured with all kinds of symbols, depending on what we have gone through and experienced, the relationships we’ve had and the ones we’ve witnessed. It’s like we’ve lost touch with our own touch, our own physical, our own presence, as our presence has been and is being defined through the consciousness of our conditioned mind – the mind that exists in polarities of fear and desire, thus: we never express directly, but through patterns of the mind.

The same with Touch.

It is a challenge for all human beings to let go of the conditioned existence we have accepted as who we are and get back to self, to the simplicity of I am Here, to the purity of touch – Touch without hidden agendas, without future projections, without the need to control the outcome, without the expectation to get something out of it.

Simplicity in the direct communication as I am here – the straightforwardness of pure touch can be the greatest comfort in this world ...and perhaps a way to change it!

Give up sainthood, renounce wisdom,
And it will be a hundred times better for everyone.

Give up kindness, renounce morality,
And men will rediscover filial piety and love.

Give up ingenuity, renounce profit,
And bandits and thieves will disappear.

These three are outward forms alone; they are not sufficient in themselves.
It is more important
To see the simplicity,
To realize one's true nature,
To cast off selfishness
And temper desire.

-         - Lao Tzu

At Desteni we walk the process of transforming the conditioned existence of ourselves into self-directive living through self-will in self-honesty – to no longer be puppets on the strings of the mind, but to stand equal to and one with the entirety of self and take responsibility for who we are in every moment, with every word, thought and deed, in everything we participate in and everything we touch.

Let's make Love something we can Touch - 

something all can see, live and practically experience as the fabric of our existence in all possible ways!

[1] [3] [4] [5] Bernard Poolman

[2] [6] Sunette Spies

[7] Lao Tzu: Tao Te Ching

Blog support:

Joy

Why isn’t Love an illegal Drug?

Love & Light Beliefs vs Man Know Thyself

From Back-Chat to the Living Word

Vlog support:

Real Love is to Give

Love is Equality

Happiness is an inside job

2012 Reasons for a Higher Purpose

Ever considered that you’re doing the ‘right’ thing for the WRONG reasons ???
Ever claimed you’re doing something for NO reason ???
Ever dared doing the ‘wrong’ thing for the RIGHT reasons ???
Ever realized that you’re reasoning away the actuality of reality ???

What is REASON?
Our reasons are always representing our starting-point, the beginning of a decision, a movement, a step we take.
Therefore, there is always a reason for doing something or moving toward a certain direction, even if that reason may not be in one’s conscious awareness.

Since the REASON is always the beginning, this implies that seeing, knowing and understanding the reason – the beginning, the starting-point – we are able to see and understand the end – the result, the outflow.
‘Beginning and end’ is equal to ‘cause and effect’.
What effect do we cause through who we are in every moment?
This is a reality of consequence.
Consequences are the outflows of who we are, the result we effect through the cause of our being.

Everything in this existence exists within and through relationships. Everything we do, every step has an outflow, a result, an impact – on the whole. That is how we are creating this reality, this existence, this world as we know it.
The abuser does not exist by itself – everything exists in relationships, and for that we are all responsible.
The system (as we’ve created/accepted/allowed it) creates the abuser: through the support of self-interest, competition and secrecy – constantly re-creating inequality, comparison, greed, despair. Who are the real criminals in the face of life? The one who steals food to survive or the white collar that works to maintain a system of separation in the name of profit?

The earth provides everything all, but man created a concept ‘scarcity’ and exploits what is here in the name of profit – all the while billions suffer.
The current system offers many distractions, resulting in the shifting of responsibility and blame. Such comments prove how easily people get distracted by ‘sensationalism’ and do not see the whole picture. Then one will quickly jump into conclusions about who is to blame, all the while one is accepting and giving permission for the system to exist as it does = in a way that supports/tolerates inequality and the exploitation of life.

Many people search for PURPOSE in life, and the current con system of consumerism and consumption is good at selling us a purpose you can buy into and follow, a purpose that will give us the feeling we’re ‘doing the right thing’ or ‘getting somewhere’, a feeling that we’re ‘important’, that we are ‘someone’, that we are ‘good’; all the while we are basically maintaining the world ‘as we know it’ and supporting the survival of a persona in self-interest – which is basically the system: where what we do is motivated by self-interest in the name of profit (whether profit is defined as actual money and riches or a ‘god’ and god’s grace or the ‘pursuit of happiness’ and ‘personal freedom’ – in any case we are in fact always enslaved to the whole system, and half the world suffers starvation and despair as a result of this survival system we all participate in day in day out.

When people make decisions about who they are and how they exist – whether consciously or unconsciously – they then tend to create the reasoning that ‘explains’ ‘why’ they do what they do, ‘why’ they are how they are. People reason about intellectually, in the mind, to not have to see the actual REASONS for this existence – the world as we know it – in the physical: this reality we all share.

When we however start investigating our actual reasons, the actual starting-point of everything we do, say, think, participate in and how this reality functions: we get to an understanding of ourselves and the world and what the relationships we entertain support or create or give permission for to exist here.

Every moment, every word, every deed – who we are and what we participate in – is a piece of the puzzle of the things to come. The problem within this is that we’ve been manifesting this world in ignorance, and then we claim that ignorance is ‘bliss’. We’ve been creating this world in unawareness, through our secret minds, our fears, our denials, our desires.

As a representation of the mind within, we have created without a metaphysical system – the current money system – through which we attempt to manage the actual physical reality; with atrocious results as we can see all around.

As we get to an understanding about the mechanics of this reality, and as we get to self-honesty about the REASONS of our existence, our behaviour, our decisions, our definitions of ourselves and the world: what emerges is the realization that we can free ourselves from the predetermined ‘fate’ we are born into and able to determine our ‘reasons’ in awareness; clear our starting-point, re-evaluate how we exist – re-define and re-form what we call ‘life’.

As we realize that every here moment forms the shape of the things to come, we can see that we can stop existing for purposes given to us by the system to keep the system alive while we abdicate our power and leave ourselves and this world to ‘fate’; and are able to LIVE HERE in every moment in awareness of our role in the context of the whole, which is LIFE.

What ‘Purpose’ is can be redefined: from a projected ‘feel good’-picture that serves the ego in disregard of the whole – to a practical living in self-determination of ‘who I am’ in every moment in the context of LIFE as Best for All, thus supporting and bringing forth the utmost potential for all life.

It is vital to UNDERSTAND life – and start LIVING ...instead of being literally driven by preordained and conditioned ideas about life.

Is there at all a RIGHT reason for ‘doing things’?
Looking at this question from a system perspective we see that ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ really doesn’t make much difference in the system, because what is ‘right’ for one is often ‘wrong’ for another, and within the system each one is encouraged to promote their ‘own’ beliefs, their ‘own’ truth, their ‘own’ philosophy about things. What is not seen is that in any case all of this serves the protection of one’s personal ‘pursuit of happiness’ and the ‘justification’ of the things we do in the name of self-interest.

Never is the Whole considered, never do we see all points or consider the outflows, the consequences and the practical implications our participation has for everything and everyone else – for that which we call ‘life’, for the existence we are creating /accepting /allowing on our planet.
Looking in self-honesty at this world, which is a reflection of who we are, we can definitely see that what we’re doing /accepting /allowing cannot be justified!

We, humanity, have no excuses for what we’re doing to ourselves and each-other.

From the perspective of life, there is no ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ – there is only ‘who we are’ and the consequences thereof.

As we come to an understanding of the ‘bigger picture’, as we get to the humbleness that comes with the insight of the atrocity of this existence and our individual involvement within it all, we can look at the point of ‘right reasons’ and ‘wrong reasons’ from a very simplistic, practical perspective, through which we are actually able to remove the systematic polarity definition of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ and place the question in the context of LIFE:

Within the context of life, ‘wrong’ would be all that which is an expression of self-dishonesty.
Self-dishonesty being our self-interest, our separation from life that based in the consciousness of fear and greed, comparison, jealousy, competition, fear of loss. In self-dishonesty we realize ourselves as systematic robots that function as conditioned happiness machines programmed to seek the jackpot whatever it takes while we are successfully distracted with bright shiny things to not see the whole picture and the role each one is actually playing within the Whole; to not see ourselves as creators and this existence as our creation – our responsibility.

Within the context of life, ‘right’ would be that which is an expression of self-honesty.
Self-honesty being the point where we see things for what they really are and face ourselves and everything we have created /accepted /allowed /given permission for to exist within ourselves and our world; realizing ourselves as life, as equal creations of the substance we all come from, the substance we all return to, and as creators of this existence on this one planet we all share. It is simple common sense that Best for All would be to live and apply our equality as life in the utmost potential and make it available to all equally in all ways; making sure that the systems we create to manage our ‘time’ between life and death – both on the small scale (our character, our relationships, our interactions in every moment) and on the bigger scale (our systems of education, administration, distribution of resources) – support ALL LIFE EQUALLY.

SELF-HONESTY is the ‘path’ – the Living Self Choice – of stopping the limitations we have accepted and allowed within and about ourselves and our world; removing the systematic controls that have us trapped in a bipolar consciousness that keeps history repeating; transforming the equations of inequality and enslavement into common sense solutions of dignity and self-empowerment in equality – so that we may be able to re-create ourselves and our existence, this world, in a way that support ourselves and each-other as LIFE.

Heaven on Earth

Heaven on Earth is possible when we Give to ourselves and each-other that which we want to Get, that which we want to enjoy, that which we wish for or dream about, in a way that life is honored and no harm is done/accepted.

Thus Heaven on Earth is possible by making available for All Here and Now the things we would all enjoy: shelter, nurturing, water, living space, TIME, freedom of movement and all opportunities to self-expansion, growth and development - all opportunities to get to know ourselves and our world.

All those 'heavenly' qualities we tend to project into an afterlife or the future 'with some luck' : We can bring it all Here, for All.
Then 'luck' is irrelevant, and so is 'hope' and all kinds of projections.


If we look at how an individual 'think of' heaven, it is mostly a place where one 'know' and 'understand' who one is and what one's reality/one's life is. One gain 'knowledge' and 'understanding' to oneself and the context of oneself - the universe.

Heaven on Earth from that perspective is when all is known and all have equal opportunity to knowledge, abilities and the study of the universe.
Heaven on Earth implies that Life is Living, not surviving.
All being free to live and explore, we do not have to exist in survival-mode in fear of each other.
When all is known and all is seen - Fear is no more.
When all have equal power, equal life, equal value - Jealousy, Spite, Greed is no more.

Heaven on Earth implies practically that all are 'god'.
With Heaven on Earth all wo/men are equal - all beings are equal and thus no evil exist.

Art by Jessica Arias

An equal money system is a first step to Heaven on Earth: Giving ourselves and each-other that which we want to Get.
If 'god' takes care of all its children, so should man.

So why don't we?
The answer is separation and fear.
Everyone wants in essence the same. Yet we submit to fear and worship beliefs of separation - instead of honoring Life as who we all really are.

Equality is the Key to Heaven on Earth.
'Heaven on Earth is eternal life'.
Equality is the Key to Life eternal.

UTOPIA ...? Let’s give it a Home – a Destenation! (A discussion on the separation of church and state, and more)

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Any great idea will remain Utopia unless it is given a practical context and a purposeful application that can be lived into reality.

Not that we’ve had many great ideas in the history of mankind... At Desteni we are coming forth with a ‘utopia’ that is for the first time a great idea considering ALL and EVERYTHING that is here – a great idea that in fact considers what is best for all. The foundation for this is the principle of equality. This may not be a new concept, obviously, yet the approach and the practical application that is being proposed is something that will not only ‘blow your mind’ – it will blow the whole current system apart!

“Thank God!”, one could say, finally, something that will help clear the dust and rust of this millennia old machine, that ended up in this world wide monarchy of money, feeding on life instead of nurturing all children of the world!

One however does not say that. Au contraire, this great idea is being resisted and fought from many corners, especially of course those that fear losing the oh so dear money (because even though money equals debt, it also equals power ... makes you wonder, doesn’t it...)

Have those with money lost their man-I ...?

It seems so, otherwise they would not be placing money before life, power before life, fear before life.

Today I was discussing the separation of religion and state, and I was challenged to look at an argument saying that "the logic of separating church and state is not all that different from the logic of separating the private economy from the state" – an argument based on an excerpt with the title "Religious Liberty and the Separation of Church and State".

I was not aware of Paul Starr’s book, "Freedom’s Power", however I looked at the principle and I see the parallel – though, let me place things into perspective:

We cannot allow beliefs and religious ideas (which are separatist or hierarchical in nature to begin with) to lead our world, or even to lead the leaders of our world, as that is not a starting-point that will ensure what is best for all.

Re-interpretation of the Bible by Cameron Cope

The same with economy: if we define the 'state' as the 'whole'/what's best for all (not that it is currently) and if we define 'private economy' as the ego-driven separatist application of economy just like the one we witness day in day out within and as our current money-system that is not based in real, actual value, but only in profit-making  --- then it is obvious that economy and welfare are separate and that an economy based on profit is not supporting all life equally.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not in any way proposing that ‘private economy’ should exist at all! Because now that it does – please have an honest look at our world and ask yourself whether you’d be willing to put yourself in the shoes of another – in the shoes of ANY OTHER BEING in this world – and walk their life as if it is yours.

The answer is obvious and the practical implication is that we cannot allow this reality, this world as we know it, to continue the way it’s currently going.

In an equal money system, everyone will have the choice to follow a religion as long as that is not influencing others – as long as a religion is not harming or compromising life. No more violation of human rights based on beliefs and religious traditions!

In an equal money system, the economy will no longer be based in profit but will be based in the value of life. People will still be able to make more money and have ‘more luxuries’ than the equal high standard available to all, but the money-making will not happen in a way that will monopolize resources or compromise the quality of a product to serve the profit-making of a select few. Nope!

Art by Jessica Arias

Let’s finally agree that the value of life is life – and that life is the highest value to be honored and practically taken care of in this one reality we all share!

Equality is about practically establishing the value of life that we all equally have in common as the spirit of our breath. We all breathe the same air!

Equality is about stopping the religion of money as it exists today : where money is the god that decides who lives and who dies in this world.

In an equal money system with equal opportunities for all, there will for the first time exist actual choice!

Life/living can be something that supports self-expression, self-expansion – and each one will have the means, the time and the freedom to expand in their skills, talents and expression. 

From this starting-point we can all stop 'surviving' and start living! From this starting-point the whole application of work/working will change, the motivation will change, and self will be/become the actual driving force of oneself and one's world – in equality. 

That is real power, that is real freedom. this is a promising scenario, but it must be willed into awareness and applied into beingness – it must be practically lived into creation – a creation where we can all live constructively and co-exist without fear!

Art y Matti Freeman

In a world of equality, we can each be ‘source’ – instead of fighting like vampires for ‘energy’. In the current world system, energy is currently manifest as the money-system – it’s goal: ‘power’ – a world that is reflecting back to us ‘who we are’/who we have become and what has become of our creation: one only need look at how we exist within the current world-system, and how (we allow) things (to) move within the money-system, while we at the same time accept that half the world must suffer in untold conditions while some suck on the resources of the EARTH that is here for all – the Earth that no money can buy, and no money can save – unless We Stop, and re-evaluate our existence into a co-existence that places life in the first place – the ‘highest moral’.

Because see – in equality ALL can have More of All : that is real quality, that is real MorAl.

Destonians : from Back-Chat to Living-Words

From Back-Chat to the Living-Word

Living-Words implies that our thoughts, actions and deeds are one, and that one stands as an integral living being-ness that resonates throughout the universe and creates existence.

Now – we can all see what kind of existence we have created here as mankind; it is anything but kind.

We have a system that feeds off of life with Money as god, instead of a system to actually support life – all life equally. We all exist in fear of each-other as slaves to this system we have created and given permission for to run our lives.

Within as without, we run on survival-mode: fight or flee, won or lose. And while for the ‘big bosses’ this may seem like a game, for the small hungry bodies in countries hidden from the mercy of ‘god’ it is a struggle for the next breath.

Inequality the mark of the beast of this existence: Mankind. Or should we say ‘Manevil'!

Consider: An actual win-win-scenario for all is possible! The answer is Equality = the practical application of the simple math that Life equals Life; and that the value of Life is Life.

For Equality of Life, all separation must stop. 

Just like all back-chat must stop, as back-chat is the evil that brews in the ‘secret chambers’ of the ill will of man – because what is no evil, need not be kept secret.

Imagine a world where thoughts are visible. Imagine a world where emotional reactions have each their own smell. (And what tells us it isn’t so, but the human ‘incapability’ to actually see itself and its own creation!)

Who would you be if everything was known? (And who says it isn’t!)

If you believe in god – How can you live with yourself?

If you believe in no god – What are you blaming for your existence?

Destonians realize that Equality as Life means equal power – self-empowerment. No gods, no masters, no slaves – Instead: self-responsibility, self-creation, self-power as Life.

Imagine a world where there is no separation in gods, masters and slaves! A world where all parts of life are equally valuable! 

What will it take to ‘get there’? 

What will it take for such ‘paradise’/’paradigm’ to be Our Here !

Realizing that we are the building-blocks of our world, and seeing the reality of this existence as we face ourselves day-to-day through all our interactions, reactions, disputes, fears and desires, news on TV and the natural calamities that every now and then come to burst our bubbles of separation : 

we have no choice but to stand-up and stop that which is creating this creation, the world as we know it – starting within ourselves.

Through self-purification we purify our existence. We are walking a process of self-honesty, walking a self-transformation from existing as back-chat in spitefulness to becoming the living-word : 

scripting and applying a new reality for all life, as what we would like for ourselves in self-dignity.

‘Make a Living’?! – The System has got you....... by the balls!

To be able to survive and ‘make a living’ (what a fucked-up idiom!*), the System demands that you find your way and use the opportunities that are here. At the same time however, it is the System that determines the opportunities that are here for you, because depending on where you are born into: whether you’re rich or poor, whether you are well taken care of or mishandled, whether you’re able to educate yourself or not, what ‘level’ of the hierarchy you ‘belong to’ etc. – your whole life is painted. You didn’t even pick the colours, though sometimes you get to buy the brushes, just so you get the illusion of choice...

The System is just like God: It spits you into existence without giving you the awareness of co-creation and responsibility – your consciousness being like an onion: layers upon layers of veils, blinding you from the blatant truth of yourself, the truth of what is here – and places temptations on your way, not without first giving you the ‘knowledge’ that these are temptations so you are tempted, upon which you’ll often go “Oh wow, I AM....(this or that...)!

It wants to see you fall, it wants to see you crawl on your needs/knees.

After all, you’re not really supposed to ‘win’, you’re just supposed to DESIRE winning and FEAR losing: the ultimate polarity by which God, the system, can have you by the balls. What a jerk, the Grand Master-Bait.

Alright, let’s not waste breath on assholes, the point is simple: Equality is the Key to the Universe, within as without. Investigate. Dare. Care. Stand-Up.

An Equal Money system will not only be based on Life as all as one as equal and abolish polarity from its God/Gut (hereby supporting the human to do the same) – it will also, and for the first time in the history of mankind, provide actual Choice and freedom of movement!
Do the research, do the math, and support Life!


*I just looked up the word ‘idiom’: “fixed expression with nonliteral meaning” was one of the definitions. Ironic how this particular idiom is LITERALLY LITERAL, and how idiom sound like idiot.

Rebellion & Standing-Up in Self-Honesty

"in self-honesty self = life = all = equal"
...that does not imply something 'beautiful'

in fact it implies to see what we have accepted and allowed to become of 'life' as we exist here - and realize that we ARE all we see, all we judge, all we fear - we are creating it through our mere existence, we give permission for 'life' to exist as the world 'as we know it' through what we accept and allow in every moment of breath as we participate and interact in this 'reality', within and without.

self-honesty is not a 'pretty sight' -
when we 'see', we first encounter the layers of atrocity we have allowed as ourselves and this world. self-honesty is then to realize "This is not acceptable" - "this is not who I really am, not what I want to be, not what I want my children to exist within and as" - and investigate to understand "how the fuck we got here"

self-honesty is to realize that for the world to change, self must change
WE must change as how we exist within ourselves and how we co-exist with each-other

self-honesty is to recognize how we've been duped and deceived and 'educated' into make-belief worlds that are designed to keep this system running, a system that is not caring for all life, not caring for life at all.
and then to stand-up and stand equal to what is here and empower ourselves to empower each-other to empower a new system for this world - a system that will care for all equally.

then we as humanity may practically and in actual fact move from self = life = all = equal = FUCKED-UP-NESS & LIMITATION & LIES ...to self = life = all = equal = FUN & FREEDOM & EXPRESSION